There’s just something about freshly pressed sheets.
Available at Williams Sonoma.
My family never had a pet. Not counting the koi that we were gifted that quickly met their demise via the neighbourhood cat and an overflowing pond.
On the other hand, the Other Half always had many pet cats in his life.
I was uncomfortable with animals. Petting them on the heads or backs was fine. No belly rubs, scratches under chin and if the animal so as much playfully swiped at me, I was outta there.
In stark contrast, the Other Half would be merrily attempting to pet and carry every stray cat we saw.
When we got our own place, he hopefully mentioned that perhaps we could have pet cats in the future. I declined vehemently, saying that I didn’t think I would ever be ready for a pet.
Due to their size and weight, they easily came up past my waist and could just as easily knock me down. What really helped to ease my discomfort was how well they had been trained. They were so well-behaved, quiet and listened to instructions.
Flapper was also an exceptionally clever dog which greatly impressed me.
Meeting them regularly helped me to understand their different personalities and quirks, endearing me to them.
However, that was insufficient for me agreeing to have a pet.
One day, Flapper’s and Frodo’s owner sent the Other Half a picture of a rescued cat.
She felt that the cat’s temperament would suit me, a first time pet owner.
We went to visit the cat and upon seeing the Other Half, he trotted over and plonked himself right into the Other Half’s lap. I smiled and patted the Other Half’s head, announcing that both boys were very happy.
1. We used to play Diablo
Photo was taken outdoors but edited to make it seem like it was taken indoors behind a window.
A bright cheery sunflower garden morphed into somewhat like a surrealist painting.
Location: Sunflower Garden at Changi Airport Terminal 2 Transit, Singapore
Being in a relationship for 12 years and counting didn’t seem big deal to me.
What led me to write this post was because friends, acquaintances and strangers started mentioning that we were such a sweet, strong and #couplegoals, type of couple.
Even a Grab driver started chatting with us and commented that we seemed to be on our honeymoon. At that time, we were 11 years together.
No expert, but I’ve been asked for relationship advice (Sidenote: /facepalm). Over the years, the advice has became simpler.
Believing in the relationship and saying yes to it everyday, not just the wedding day. Saying yes, when the other party says no; saying yes, through all difficulties. That commitment will help both parties be open to the next points.
Such a cliche, but so true. Communicate as much as possible. We almost overshare. It has helped us to build processes, structures and trust with each other. From shared calendars (dutifully updated) to finances, goals, especially unhappiness with each other.
This has definitely been a struggle for me, maybe not so much that Other Half, due to our different personalities. When I catch myself saying or thinking “can’t you do xxx”, I try to take a step back and appreciate the other things that he does. Definitely a work in progress!
We work at this relationship every single day. We’re almost exact opposites, so disagreements are a given.
With practice, it gets easier, and what you see is the fruits of that labour!
PS: Lessons from our personal relationship has helped me to translate to making friend and work relationships work.
Ana and Jacob White live in rural Alaska. Ana moved from urban USA to rural Alaska for Jacob, so he promised that he would build her their forever home.
I love that they built it together, from foundations up. The whole process is documented on Youtube. Highly recommend.
They’re such a lovely, authentic and caring family. So much DIY and SketchUp on their channel! Can you sense my excitement?!
Also check out Ana’s site where she shares free woodworking plans.
v1.01. Updated 20 Jan 2019
The Other Half did up a spreadsheet to estimate which savings account and rebate card combo best suits our spending pattern.
We prefer rebate and interest over points as we get our returns sooner, and have the freedom to swap to better plans as needed, without feeling tied down by points.
This spreadsheet was done after reading through extremely lengthy (and sometimes confusing) terms and conditions from various Singapore banks.
Hope this helps someone!
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This post is for me to archive general interview questions that I tend to ask, and maybe someone will find them useful!
So I’ve been going to job interviews these past few years. Interviews give me such a bag of nerves that when it comes to “do you have any questions?”, I just remember 1 or 2 of the questions that I had prepared.
As I get more comfortable and confident going for interviews, now I have no qualms about fishing out my notebook or phone (depending on where the prepared questions were noted down), whilst saying, “give me a moment to check my questions”.
The questions are loosely organised in chronological order as the interview progresses. Meaning that questions that should be asked earlier are listed first.
1. What does your ideal candidate look like?
A job description has so many requirements. Generally, interviewers will list their key requirements in response to this question. Then you’ll be able to cite relevant experiences that directly fit the role.
2. What is the growth path of this role?
This shows that you’re keen on staying and growing with the company for awhile (which I sure hope you are!). Also it helps you figure out if the planned growth path suits your long-term goals. If not, there’s still time to communicate that to the interviewer and see if there could be an alternative growth path.
3. What are the short and long-term plans of the department/company?
This is different from question #2. This shows that you’re interested in the environment around you (you better be cos it definitely has an impact on you!). You can also see if the plans tie in with your growth. If it does, communicate it with the interviewer so this shows that you’re personally invested and motivated in being successful in this role.
4. What is your working style?
Being able to work well with your boss is so important! When you get to talk to your direct reporting manager, it’s good to find out what they’re like. If you’re similar, or appreciate their style, tell them! It builds rapport. Also, bosses, like anyone are just looking for people that they can work well with.
5. What is your managerial style?
This is different from question #4. If they have experience managing staff, it will be evident after this question. You’ll be able to tell how they care, how they lead and how they expect work to be done.
6. Could you share any concerns that you have about me regarding this role?
Such an important question! Ask this towards the end of the interview. Then you’ll be able to (hopefully) address any lingering doubts about you.
7. What are the next steps of the interview process and the expected timeline?
This will help you manage your expectations on how short or long the interview process will be. You’ll also know when to ask HR or the recruiter for updates without being pushy.
8. Do you have any feedback for me?
I asked this question on a whim when I felt a really good rapport with the interviewer. The answer was invaluable. Please ask this when possible!
PS: I can’t emphasise the usefulness of bringing a notebook/scribble pad to an interview. An interviewer suggested using “pieces of paper” to help with organising thoughts (after I asked “do you have any general feedback”), I acted on it in a subsequent interview, and used it to organise an answer to an on-the-spot scenario-based question. So good!
PPS: After writing this post, I realised that I could have done so much better at past interviews. Then again, that’s why I blog – to reflect, learn and grow.
Updated 8 Jan 2019
Google “Singapore donations” and you’ll find MANY blog posts on lists of places to donate. But where are the donations going?
I reached out to friends, googled places and cross-checked with Journey to Zero Waste Life in Singapore Facebook group. Robin, the admin, seems to be quite an informed and logical person.
I’m personally okay if donated items do not go directly to beneficiaries, but be transparent about it. Then the donor can make an informed decision.
Swapping is an option, but my plan is to get rid of items.
Please read this very informative post on places to donate clothes in Singapore. The list does not include any of the places listed above.
Person A to a group of people: I want to buy something online. Can I borrow someone’s credit card?
People: Why? Don’t you have your own?
Person A: I’m not sure how reputable the site is. So don’t want anything to happen to my credit card.
In Singlish, this is called sabo
deliberately causing trouble or inconvenience to someone